I don’t know about you, but the holidays (starting in Thanksgiving and ending in New Year’s) makes me a little…Grinchy.
I want to LOVE the holidays. I really do! As of late, and as I have begun to think about starting a family, I want to be a Who in Whoville and not the Grinch. Unfortunately, the Who in me hasn’t been able to surface for a long time.
Money issues, holiday planning, budget, family…those are just a few things that really get me. Christmas just seems more and more commercialized and money driven-‘get the man in your life this gadget $$$’ or ‘treat her to what she deserves $$’ buy this, buy that and prove your ‘love.’ Just doesn’t appeal to me.
Also, blending families. My family wants me to do this, his family wants us to do that-there just never seems to be enough time and one side always seems hurt. I have a lot of issues with control-and sometimes I feel like I get manipulated into things I don’t want to do and its a form of control. What a Grinch thing to think!!
So, this year I figured I really needed to do something different:
- Working out. I’m sticking to my workout plan and I’m not going to feel guilty for it. It’s for everyone’s own good anyways. Check my Instagram @Fitness_Funsized and follow along on the 12 Days of Christmas workouts for some quick, sweat inducing and endorphin releasing lifts!
- $$$ Spreadsheet $$$ with a budget in mind. I know what I need to spend, how much i have to spend, then I write who I spend for and what they are getting (with check marks on when they are done-cause who doesn’t love a good list with check marks?!) I’m usually wrenched with guilt when I last minute shop for my own family and fall short compared to my s/o’s family. Being organized and writing it down, holds me accountable.
- I won’t feel guilty for not meeting others expectations of gifts. I’ve asked around what people would like; if it fits the budget and it’s available-boom! easy. But, I won’t feel guilty for giving you a gift card to Amazon so that I know my money given to you is going towards something you really want.
- I’m an introvert and I’m going to take allotted time to recharge in between family get-togethers and food. (I did try this and it back fired for Thanksgiving-but, I didn’t communicate that to my s/o and was my fault.)
- This goes with #4 but, I can’t feel guilty about said time to recharge. It’s apart of my self-care and I’ll save that for another post on what all you can do for self care but, a 20 minute soak in the tub is high on that list!
I also plan to get my ass in my car and see all the lights on the mansions in a nearby neighborhood because that just sounds magical. I promise to not steal the lights, trees, and who-hash.
No artful bullshit and forever yours,